Fathers Day – 2018

This is my Dad story. My parents were raised in Italy in the same little town but never knew one another. They met in America, got married, and moved into a nice new neighborhood, but was definitely an immigrant neighborhood. One either side of our house were Polish immigrant families. Two doors down on the right was a Jewish immigrant family. directly across the street was an Irish family and to their right was an Italian family, and next to them was one from Scotland. I will not bore you with more of the makeup of the neighborhood. I believe you understand the setting.The funny part though is that the street I lived on was named “Main Street.”

Our home had a nice front porch. Everyone had a nice front porch. In the summer we would sit on the porch in so nice Adirondack rocking chairs. One evening I was sitting on the porch with my father talking and visiting with passer-bys, but I related to my father that I had had some ugly words thrown at me that day near school about being Italian.

My father answered me with a question about how did I get along in our neighborhood. Oh, I said, I get along fine. I really like everyone here. My father said something to this effect, “If you can get along here, you will do fine in the world because this is the world. You can practice here.”

It has been about 75 years since that episode on the porch and my memory of words spoken may now be vague, but the lesson was never forgotten. I lived almost all my young life on Main Street, first at 1234, then at 1260. And I have never become detached from the lessons of Main Street.

Our Sovereign Rights

It is a principle of our nature that the individual is sovereign. The cultural meaning of the word, sovereign, is to be, “independent of, and unlimited by, any other. Too often we let others intimidate us because of something we said. You know their retort, “I can’t believe you think that!” WHY NOT! Below I have listed 10 sovereign rights we each possess, for which we make no excuse. Attribution is unknown.

1. You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions; but, to take the responsibility for their initiations and consequences upon yourself.

2. You have the right to offer no reasons or excuses for justifying your behavior.

3. You have the right to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people’s problems.

4. You have the right to change your mind.

5. You have the right to make mistakes and be responsible for them.

6. You have the right to say, “I don’t know!”

7. You have the right to be independent of the goodwill of others before coping with them.

8. You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.

9. You have the right to say, “I don’t understand.”

10. You have the right to say, I don’t care!”

Sam Walton is a good example

President Trump is being lambasted because of his practice of Twitting his thoughts. All the “experts” say he should stop the practice. One pundit remarked that he has to understand his Twitts become documents in the public record. Did it ever dawn of them that his Twitter practice is precisely that; unvarnished and unfiltered statements he wants understood. To an old-timer like me, that’s the way it used to be. Example.

When Sam Walton started Walmart he instituted the Walmart “no questions asked return policy.” As Walmart expanded and more stores were added the store managers were modifying the return policy. Sam Walton didn’t like that.  So, the story is told that at a company-wide store managers meeting, Sam Walton did this, and they say it did happen.

He told the store managers that he wanted to clarify his return policy. Sam Walton opened up a box containing a new toaster. He dropped it on the stage floor. Picked it up, looked at the audience of managers and said, “Refund it, no questions asked.” Words to that effect. How much clearer could have Sam Walton instruction been?

Donald Trump comes from the world of Sam Walton. Enough said.

My Final RV Sold

After 43 years of RVing, my last RV here is sold (2013). There comes a time when it ends. It started with a Jungle hammock, a Starcraft popup trailer, Holiday trailer, Airstream trailer, two Holiday Rambler motor homes, and the final Surveyor Select trailer.

RV Slide Side RV Rear RV Pull-Down TV RV Power Jack RV Outside TV Mount RV Outside Speakers RV Outside Shower RV Kitchen RV Front RV Fancy Wheels RV Dinette RV Couch Area RV Bedroom RV Bedroom TV RV Bath#1 RV Awning Side RV Auto Jacks RV 360 Degree TV Antenna

Walk the Talk

There is a modern-day taunt to those that speak with empty words to “walk the talk!” In my age, we would say that one should “put their money where their mouth is.” Using the thought behind these two phrases, I would like to discuss Conservative activism. We hear the chant repeatedly, “I am a Conservative.” But it begs the question, “Are you walking the talk?”

To most, the meaning of conservatism is one of a common sense emotion rather than principled statements like those contained in our U.S. Constitution. In many ways, that’s not all bad and can be illustrated by how we follow our culture in everyday living. Culture is the act of development by education. Education not necessarily “higher education” but, civilization handed down. As a young child, I was constantly reminded by my immigrant parents to “trust your culture.” Not words like that, but an exact quote!

Culture is similar to “averaging” in mathematics. My electric bill goes up and down from month to month. But having lived in my home for such a long period of time, I can predict what my next month’s bill will be. An outcome of averaging. But, what if my electric bill next month has doubled? Quick answer is that I find out why, and attempt to remedy the situation.

We have about 400 years of culture in America. Until recently, our citizens could arise in the morning and know what to expect. Oh yes, unfortunate things happened, and there were social adjustments along the way, even wars, but generally, we are a positive attitude nation and live on the expectation that “the sun will come up tomorrow.” There existed a sort of “cultural average” that we lived with and expected.

However, as I illustrated with my utility bill, Americans have now arisen to find that there has been a “spike” of cultural change in our country during the past twenty years. The problem is that the “vast majority” (my use) recognize the spiked change, don’t like the changes involved, and want to reverse most of them. Still, there will be those that will quickly use my utility bill illustration against any cultural remedy, by stating, “Perhaps the reason your electric bill was so high was that you left the air conditioner at 68 degrees and went off for a month vacation.” In other words, “It’s your entire fault.” If facts reveal that it was indeed my fault in leaving the air conditioner on while away, I accept the responsibility of my action. But what if not, and it had something to do beyond my responsibility. What then? Accept, or fight back?

It is my contention that most reasonably enlightened Americans understand that changes will occur, and that our national cultural average will rise and fall slightly over time, given the nature of averaging. Where the ordinary citizens become enraged and overcome with frustration is in believing that they have been left out of the averaging equation. Frustration and controlled rage are emotions, and can be good motivational drivers to initiate action. But, again, even with an emotional assist, what attempt by direct action do most make to reverse an unwanted change? Unfortunately, not much. Too often the response about inaction is that it is beyond the capacity of the individual.

Not so. If we really believe that conservatism revolves around the individual, then, remedies to unwanted changes also revolve around the individual. However, the rub is too many individuals in today’s society have been “schooled” in the idea that all societal change falls in the “Sacrament of National Government.” I would like, here, to postulate three simple rules of activism, there are many more, that are available to all at the individual level.

1. Written Criticism

Any complaint or criticism, even when made in person, should be evidenced in writing whenever possible. Never phone. Politicians and public servants get real nervous when anything in writing can become part of the record.

2. Identify your accuser

Article VI of the U.S. Constitution says, in part, “…to be confronted with the witness against him;” That concept has real meaning at the individual’s level beyond its normally held judicial use. Let me give you an illustration. About a year ago, I received a notice from my City public works department demanding that I cut the grass on a vacant commercial lot I own. The city ordinances permit vacant lots to have grass higher than what you might expect in a residential neighborhood. Knowing something was fishy; I took a photograph of a yardstick stuck in the grass at my lot, and then went “downtown.” I asked to meet the inspector that issued the notice. The reply was, “Oh that complaint was phoned in by a neighbor. We didn’t inspect it.” “In other words” I replied, after showing the photograph, “your department issued an official notice to cut grass, over the signature of an inspector making a false statement.” Never heard about the matter again!

I simply use this illustration to recommend that any notice you receive over the signature of a public servant, insist that you deal with that person, face-to-face and/or in writing.

3. Make your own donations

In my opinion, one of the greatest community failures in recent history has been in the area of non-profit organizations. If one delves into the controlling management structure of many, they will be found to be managed by corporate type individuals, and not the volunteer type of past. Dollars become important, while mission becomes less important. Do not give to “omnibus” charities. Make your own charitable decisions. If you are pro-life, why would you donate to a United Givers campaign only to have the agency grant funds to an abortion clinic? In one stroke of a decision, you have made a meaningful pro-life difference. And it was done at the local level without any necessity of “permission” by a legislative body.

I can go on, but I will not. You have been kind when you made it this far with me. I thank you. Please remember that common sense actions accomplished by just one individual, when multiplied by others, can make a difference in restoring our “cultural average.”